Managing ADHD

WHAT IS A.D.H.D….????

(Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder)

Symptoms

ADHD used to be known as attention deficit disorder, or ADD. In 1994, it was renamed ADHD and broken down into three subtypes, each with its own pattern of behaviors:

1.     An Inattentive type, with signs that include:

·        inability to pay attention to details or a tendency to make careless errors in schoolwork or other activities

·         difficulty with sustained attention in tasks or play activities

·         apparent listening problems

·         difficulty following instructions

·         problems with organization

·         avoidance or dislike of tasks that require mental effort

·         tendency to lose things like toys, notebooks, or homework

·         distractibility

·        forgetfulness in daily activities

2.     A hyperactive-impulsive type, with signs that include:

·        fidgeting or squirming

·        difficulty remaining seated

·        excessive running or climbing

·        difficulty playing quietly

·        always seeming to be "on the go"

·        excessive talking

·        blurting out answers before hearing the full question

·        difficulty waiting for a turn or in line

·        problems with interrupting or intruding

3.  A combined type (ADHD), which involves a combination of the other two types and is the most common

Although it can be challenging to raise kids with ADHD, it's important to remember they aren't "bad," "acting out," or being difficult on purpose. And they have difficulty controlling their behavior without medication or behavioral therapy.

Learning Disabilities

About half of all kids with ADHD also have a specific learning disability. The most common learning problems are with reading (dyslexia) and handwriting. Although ADHD isn't categorized as a learning disability, its interference with concentration and attention can make it even more difficult for a child to perform well in school.

Treating ADHD

ADHD can't be cured, but it can be successfully managed. The goal is to help a child learn to control his or her own behaviour and to help families create an atmosphere in which this is most likely to happen.

Behavioral Therapy

Behavioral therapy attempts to change behaviour patterns by:

·        reorganizing a child's home and school environment

·        giving clear directions and commands

·        setting up a system of consistent rewards for appropriate behaviours and negative consequences for inappropriate ones

Here are examples of behavioural strategies that may help a child with ADHD:

·        Create a routine. Try to follow the same schedule every day, from wake-up time to bedtime. Post the schedule in a prominent place, so your child can see what's expected throughout the day and when it's time for homework, play, and chores.

·        Get organized. Put schoolbags, clothing, and toys in the same place every day so your child will be less likely to lose them.

·        Avoid distractions. Turn off the TV, radio, and computer games, especially when your child is doing homework.

·        Limit choices. Offer a choice between two things (this outfit, meal, toy, etc., or that one) so that your child isn't overwhelmed and over stimulated.

·        Change your interactions with your child. Instead of long-winded explanations and cajoling, use clear, brief directions to remind your child of responsibilities.

·        Use goals and rewards. Use a chart to list goals and track positive behaviours, then reward your child's efforts. Be sure the goals are realistic (think baby steps rather than overnight success).

·        Discipline effectively. Instead of yelling or spanking, use timeouts or removal of privileges as consequences for inappropriate behaviour. Younger kids may simply need to be distracted or ignored until they display better behaviour.

·        Help your child discover a talent. All kids need to experience success to feel good about themselves. Finding out what your child does well — whether it's sports, art, or music — can boost social skills and self-esteem.

ADHD in the Classroom

In addition to using routines and a clear system of rewards, here are some other tips to share with teachers for classroom success:

·        Reduce seating distractions. Lessening distractions might be as simple as seating your child near the teacher instead of near the window.

·        Use a homework folder for parent-teacher communications. The teacher can include assignments and progress notes, and you can check to make sure all work is completed on time.

·        Break down assignments. Keep instructions clear and brief, breaking down larger tasks into smaller, more manageable pieces.

·        Give positive reinforcement. Always be on the lookout for positive behaviours. Ask the teacher to offer praise when your child stays seated, doesn't call out, or waits his or her turn instead of criticizing when he or she doesn't.

·        Teach good study skills. Underlining, note taking, and reading out loud can help your child stay focused and retain information.

·        Supervise. Check that your child goes and comes from school with the correct books and materials. Sometimes kids are paired with a buddy to can help them stay on track.

·        Be sensitive to self-esteem issues. Ask the teacher to provide feedback to your child in private, and avoid asking your child to perform a task in public that might be too difficult.

·    Involve the school counselor or psychologist. He or she can help design behavioural programs to address specific problems in the classroom.

Other Activities & Games:

3D View Video Games should be barred:  These kids shouldn’t play video games which has 3D view and high flashy stimulation. Rather they shall play games which requires high amount of concentration with fun and rewards. Like Find out differences, Hidden Object Games, Puzzles, Strategy based games etc.

 Encourage them to play Board Games: Encourage these kids to play board games like chess, Hexel, Carom etc.

One regular physical activity: These kids should play or do one regular physical activity daily in form of sports or dance.

**Consult nearest  Expert for Diagnose and help.

MANISH SHARMA

Parenting Coach

+91 9888436212

AQ - Adversity Quotient

Dr. Paul Stoltz defines Adversity Quotient as “the capacity of the person to deal with the adversities of his life. As such, it is the science of human resilience.”

Adversity Quotient (AQ), which tells how well one withstands adversity and his ability to triumph over it.

“An indicator of how you withstand adversity and your ability to overcome it.”

Definition of Adverse situation varies from individual to individual. For a school going child, exam result can be an adverse situation. For a corporate sales manager, monthly performance review can be an adverse situation. For an entrepreneur business loss can be adverse situation.

Fight with somebody is also an adverse situation. But to withstand and overcome this adverse situation one shall have high self belief and determination level.

 People with the capacity to overcome adversity, regardless of their skills, intelligence or innate talents are much more likely to be successful at whatever they do.

In categorizing how people deal with adversity, Dr. Stoltz identified 3 different types of folks:

Climbers

• These are the folks that are destined for the top
• They let nothing stop them
• In business, climbers are those that no matter how many times they ‘fail’, they will pick themselves up and try again.

Campers

• Have had some success, perhaps even significant success, but have run up against a wall
• They need to rest for awhile OR they need to fall back and regroup/rethink their approach
• Perhaps they have met their goals and have not set new ones (so they are stagnating)
• The good news is campers can start climbing again anytime they choose!

Quitters are those who stop at:

• The first disappointment
• Their first couple of prospecting calls and they don’t get an appointment
• Their first meeting when nobody shows
• Their first presentation and the prospect says no
• Their own excuse of “This business really isn’t for me” because things got uncomfortable.
• The embarrassment of not succeeding right out of the starting blocks, and it’s not likely they will ever come back to it.

AQ – CORE

Control:

–  How much control do you perceive to have over the adverse event?

–  Greater perceived control leads to a more empowered and proactive approach.

Origin and Ownership:

–  Who or what was the or igin of the adversity?

–  To what degree do I own the outcomes?

–  Remorse, blame and critisism are compelling motivators – but only in measured doses

–  Accountability – to what degree am I responsible?

Reality:

–  How far will the outcomes affect the other areas of my life?

–  Overestimating the reality of the consequences is detrimental

Endurance:

–  How long will the adversity last?

–  How long will the cause of the adversity last?

–  Labelling yourself as “stupid” or as a “loser” is detrimental and is difficult to reverse

Techniques For Overcoming Low AQ

• Listen to your thought responses (are they high or low AQ?)
• Explore all origins and ownership of the result

• What are the possible origins of the adversity?
• What part was my fault?
• What specifically could I have done better?
• What aspects should I own?
• What aspects shouldn’t I own?
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• Analyse the evidence
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  • What evidence is there that I have no control?
  • What evidence is there that the adversity will affect the other areas of my life?
  • What other evidence is there that there will be prolonged consequences?
• Do Something
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• What additional information do I need?
• What could I do to gain some control?
• What could I do to limit the reach of the adversity?
• What could I de to limit how long the adversity endures in its current state?

Information/matter collected from Articles and books written by Mr. Paul G. Stoltz

Manish Sharma

Parenting Coach

Helicopter Parenting

Some parents think that love means revolving their lives around their children. They are helicopter parents. They hover over and then rescue their children whenever trouble arises. They’re forever running lunches, permission slips, band instruments, and homework assignments to school. They’re always pulling their children out of jams. Not a day goes by when they’re not protecting little junior from something —usually from a growing experience —he needs or deserves. As soon as their children send up an SOS flare, helicopter parents, who are ready hovering nearby, swoop in and shield the children from teachers, playmates, and other elements that appear hostile. While today these “loving” parents may feel they are easing their children’s path into adulthood, tomorrow the same children will be leaving home and wasting the first eighteen months of their adult life flunking out of college or meandering about “getting their heads together.” Such children are unequipped for the challenges of life. Their significant learning opportunities were stolen from them in the name of love.

Helicopter parents fail to prepare their kids to meet that kind of world.

The irony is that helicopter parents are often viewed by others as model parents. 

Manish Sharma

Parenting Coach

DMIT in India & FIRST

The world is progressing at a very fast speed and there has been a steady increase on the use of technology that promise maximum output in the minimum possible time.
Unfortunately this concept is not simply restricted to machines.

Parents and peers are pushing their children beyond their capacity and children are struggling to keep up. Parents want to enroll their children in the best possible institution with the best facilities money can buy but the bottom line is that it will be of no use if the child does not have an inherent talent in that particular field. For Example, A child interested in music will perform well to an extent if he has the best teacher and the best possible equipments, but he will not excel in it if his heart’s desire is to be a sculptor. However, now the possibility of finding out the inherent ability of the child is perhaps greater than ever with the help of Dermatoglyphics Multiple Intelligence Test or DMIT.

DMIT today is fast emerging as one of the most popular methods of understanding a child and parents are taking their children as young as two or three years old for the test. The DMIT analysis deals with finger print analysis of the child. It has been scientifically proven that the ridges on the fingers are associated with the development of the brain and spinal cord and the connection starts at the embryonic stage. Fingerprint analysis has always been a key area of study in the forensics for the sole reason that no two sets of fingerprints are alike on this planet, making each individual unique in this respect. Fingerprints do not change even after a heavy injury, unless the dermis is severely damaged. Hence, while studying the fingerprint, it is also possible to understand the unique features and abilities of a child.

In India, the DMIT test cost varies around Rs 4000 to Rs 10000 and it is conducted with leading DMIT counselors. A DMIT counselor will be able to guide the parents to the right strength and weakness of their child. The fingerprints of the child would be scanned and a detailed report would be given to the parents in couple of days. Children who show excessive energy and are extremely restless or those who are very quiet and do not respond at all are often taken to a child psychologists by distressed parents. The DMIT test can unravel the deepest inclinations of the child and the environment can be modified so that the child may benefit from it. Many new age schools are also encouraging parents to take their child to the DMIT counselors so that they can place the student in courses that would be most beneficial to them.

This test has just been developed in recent years and is fast gaining momentum. While the finer nuances still need some fine tuning, the results so far has been encouraging. The test is of ten minutes duration and it involves the placement of the fingers of the child on a scanner which is connected to software which reads the ridges of the fingers and examines the fingerprints. To a layman, there might not be any perceivable difference, but the scanner shows that how the patterns of the fingers can be connected to the functioning of the brain and thus helps in finding out about the aptitude of the child. Eager parents, who cannot or do not want to wait for years for their child to grow up and then choose a career path, are taking their children, as young as two or three years old to the test centers and are running this test. The parents are handed a detailed report and time will prove whether the deduction is correct.

The test seeks to find out about the dormant intelligence of the student and the inherent qualities that he may have with regards to music, art, logistics, mathematics, nature, science or even kinesthetic and motor skills. The parents are prepared that there child will be academically inclined or will be drawn towards sports or the fine arts. This would definitely help them to understand the desires of their children and support them when they choose a particular field in future.

As DMIT have become the fastest emerging tools for skill assessment of Individuals and as the trend goes this new business opportunity has bought both, the genuine people who are following the correct practices and processes & The Fraudulent practitioners. Unfortunately, just thinking that this is another money making opportunity, the fraudulent practitioners are far out-beating the genuine players in numbers in this Industry.

In continuation to above concerns and lime flashing the industry with stringent and quality work practices, with practitioners of backend correct knowledge and to be a game changer for both company and consumer, FIRST have arrived. The one and only Association of its own kind which is of DMITians, for DMITians and of DMITians, and is mentored by senior veterans of DMIT industry of India. FIRST is non-profit organisation and shall ensure quality training's to DMITians, Reinforcing quality standard procedures to yield best analysis of client and safeguarding business interest of DMITians.

Also the Association is inviting DMITians, the current practitioners to avail its membership with a clear cut agenda of mutual benefits as shared below

Benefits of being FIRST Member-
● Interactive and continuous learning through Whats-app group and other social platforms.
● High quality DMIT Counselor Training at very low cost.
● Business networking and expansion.
● Institutional sales and support.
● Assistance in making Marketing and promotional material and strategy support.

So be tune to FIRST ..... AS GAME CHANGER HAS ARRIVED.

“ Let DMIT industry shines with its full potential and become the most helpful and supportive tool in the society for which the entire science has evolved “

Membership inquiries to FIRST can be floated on phone numbers as mentioned -7405495207,9825128536,9888436212,9021728025,8007244100

Vipin Dutt,
DMIT Professional & Expert

FIRST HAS ARRIVED

DMIT is one of the fastest emerging tools for skill assessment of Individuals. But, as the trend goes, any new opportunity brings along with it both:

• The Genuine people who are following the correct practices and processes; & 
• The Fraudulent practitioners!

Unfortunately, just thinking that this is another money making opportunity, the fraudulent practitioners are far out-beating the genuine players in numbers in this Industry.  It's important to understand what is the crux of DMIT as a tool:

• The science involved- Dermatoglyphics where it is established that the 10 fingers are connected with the 10 lobes of the brain diagonally giving a blueprint of the brain pattern;
• The process involved- Fingerprint capturing followed by a back-end process where DMIT qualified Analysts do the visual analysis of the fingerprints followed by a Data-mining similar to pathology process to arrive at the accurate results;
• Generation of the report based on the distribution of the 10 lobes called as the "Innate distribution";
• Encryption followed by deletion of the fingerprints once the reports are generated;
• A consultation with each client individually showing them their innate strengths and limitations and corresponding activities or academics for excellence naturally 

The consultation is the most important part of DMIT reports because it is the interpretation of the innate distribution which leads to correct guidance given to each person. This- can be the changing moment for any individual in his/her life if they start following the recommendations given religiously.

There are 'n' number of success stories which have emerged in the last 6 years of this science having been implemented in India. So.. this Industry has a very bright future for sure.. albeit with the right players!

Alternatively, there are 'n' number of people who are advocating against DMIT too because they have been duped by the incompetent products and knowledge base of the Consultants who are dependent on the software providers. Here, it becomes important to start spreading the awareness of genuine products as compared to the fraudulent products who are short term here only to make money, spoil the name of the Industry, and then run away for ever.

In continuation to above concerns and lime flashing the industry with stringent and quality work practices, with practitioners of backend correct knowledge and to be a game changer for both company and consumer, FIRST have arrived. The one and only Association of its own kind which is of DMITians, for DMITians and of DMITians, and is mentored by senior veterans of DMIT industry of India. FIRST is non-profit organisation and shall ensure quality training's to DMITians, Reinforcing quality standard procedures to yield best analysis of client and safeguarding business interest of DMITians.

Also the Association is inviting DMITians, the current practitioners to avail its membership with a clear cut agenda of mutual benefits as shared below

Benefits of being FIRST Member

● Interactive and continuous learning through Whats-app group and other social platforms.

● High quality DMIT Counselor Training at very low cost.

● Business networking and expansion.

● Institutional sales and support.

● Assistance in making Marketing and promotional material and strategy support.

So be tune to FIRST ..... AS GAME CHANGER HAS ARRIVED.

Let DMIT industry shines with its full potential and become the most helpful and supportive tool in the society for which the entire science has evolved.

Membership inquiries can be floated on 7405495207,9825128536,9888436212,9021728025,8007244100

Vipin Dutt,

DMIT Professional & Expert